You just broke the internet

Tag : arguments

26 Nov 2017

Maybe you will read these words later. Maybe not. Maybe you will just delete it all and say I’m being ugly and rude. That’s you option, but I will say this. Coming from you this is most disturbing and hurtful.

Something about your feelings is caught up in those pictures. Okay. So it is. The fact that I don’t feel the same is not my issue or sin. I have only told you that I don’t find the images interesting and I made the mistake (yes, this I will admit) of telling you my feelings towards what I see from his images. I should have just passed on the whole thing because your reaction is way too much.

Make sure that you don’t ever, ever share his work with me again. I don’t need this drama!

Good night

If this stupid argument has put a big strain on our friendship then it would seem there never was a friendship. 

If I don’t know where I stand on this I will say this.  I thought where I stood was in a friendship where I didn’t have to agree with and feel the same way my friend does about anything and if asked I could reply according to this understanding without being attacked and treated like I have just insulted someone or something.

In my comments I made sure not to say anything deliberately that would insult or denigrate the persons involved or the art piece in question.  I stated what I truly think which was to say that I don’t feel what you feel.  Why is that so wrong? 

You need to do some self-assessment.

This isn’t love

15 Mar 2017

One of the saddest things about internet discussion is how it brings out hostile discourse. Maybe I shouldn’t say it brings out because internet discussion doesn’t do anything. Only the participants can actually bring something to it. I think of all the time wasted in personal attacks, anger and unnecessary fighting and wonder how much better we could make this world if each individual made a firm choice not to bring such things to the discussions. At best, someone ends up making a conscious decision not to continue in such discussions, walking away from them. Communication is then lost along with what benefits come from it.

2017 and so many of us on edge with our heals dug in and our fences securely in place around our respected positions menacingly shaking our fists and proclaiming “I will not be moved” – which is to say I will not consider anything different than my views nor will I change despite whatever is presented to me that could alter my process.

Walk away from it? Stay out of such discussions? Never participate? Sure. These are all solutions that we come to, but always at the expense of communication that teaches, provides learning and fosters growth. I look around at this mess and mutter “no wonder.”